LIFE RELATIONSHIPS !!

Relationships !!

One of the deepest and most pressing needs for humanity is to have trusting, fulfilling relationships--so much so that some people are willing to settle for second best. Take a minute to think about relationships you have had or those you have now. Do these relationships build you up by encouraging you and affirming you as a person or are these relationships soul draining, energy zapping and leaving you with feelings of resentment, depression, hopelessness, frustration, guilt, shame and being used?

“Many people in destructive relationships don’t recognize them for what they are,” “Destructive relationships can occur with parents, children, coworkers, supervisors, male and female friends, siblings, spouse or significant other. The relationship does not have to be violent and most frequently is not. Just because you don’t have a black eye or a broken arm does not mean the relationship isn’t destructive.”

Emotional abuse – exits when the intent is to destroy a person’s spirit and crush their self- esteem.

This type of abuse reveals itself in jealous and controlling behavior. The abusive person is always checking in, they often blame the other person for everything and never take responsibility for their own behavior.

Physical abuse – While we think of males assaulting females, female to male physical violence has tripled in the last two years

If you believe you are in a destructive relationship here are some things to remember:

• Love is a behavior, not a feeling. Look at the way a person treats you, not how you think they feel about you or what you believe their intent would be.

• In any relationship you have, when you get that creepy feeling in your stomach., ask yourself at that very moment – “Would I consider this loving behavior?” – often the answer will be NO.

• It is very difficult to stay in a relationship where you acknowledge the behavior is unloving. If you acknowledge the behavior as unloving and you choose to stay, you are a part of the problem and you should seek help.

You always have options. There are three things that we have control over in life – our thoughts, behaviors and reactions. We cannot control the way somebody treats us, but we do have 100 percent control over how we react – whether you stay, leave, speak up or accept it.

Dr .Shilpa Harwani

Consulting Homoeopathic Psychiatrist, Counselor & Psychotherapist

BGR MIND CLINIC & BLISS Counseling n Psychotherapy Centre.

Amravati

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FEAR FACTOR !!

FEAR FACTOR !!

 

What is Fear?

 

Emotions play an important part in our daily lives. Fear is one such emotion that is pre-programmed into all animals and people as an instinctual response to potential danger. 

As for what is fear biologically speaking, when a person experiences fear, certain areas in their brain such as the amygdala and the hypothalamus are immediately activated and appear to control the first physical response to fear. Chemicals such as adrenaline and the stress hormone cortisol are released into the blood stream causing certain physical reactions such as:

• Rapid heart rate
• Increased blood pressure
• Tightening of muscles
• Sharpened or redirected senses
• Dilation of the pupils (to let in more light)
• Increased sweating 

People who have experienced this will often remember the moment when disaster stuck and how time seemed to slow down. They knew exactly what to do without consciously thinking about it, they had great strength (some have even been able to lift a car to save their trapped child) and they felt no pain. All these are protective mechanisms to increase our chances of survival.

There are numerous causes of fear. Some are better known than others such as fear of flying or Aviophobia, fear of spyders-Arachnephobia, and fear of confined spaces-Claustrophobia. Others types of fear not so well known are fear of mirrors-Catoptrophobia, and fear of hair-Chaetophobia. Fear of being tickled by feathers-Pteronophobia, and Papyrophobia or fear of paper are yet other not so well known causes of fear. Still new causes of fear are being diagnosed.

Diagnosing Fear

What is fear?

Fear is not always adaptive. A small amount of fear before an important speech serves a purpose – it encourages you to focus on your topic and avoid making a fool of yourself. This is one of the types of fear that can be useful to sharpen our minds. However, some types of fear that are excessive can become crippling, or even make you feel like escaping when it is not appropriate to do so.

When fear gets out of control, or when we fear something that cannot actually harm us, it can escalate to a point where it effects our daily functioning. Fear is no longer adaptive if we find we are constantly afraid of events that haven’t happened yet.

Future-orientated fear is known as anxiety. While fear happens at the moment danger arises, anxiety is characterized by apprehension because we don’t know what’s going to happen next, and we cannot control upcoming events.

Experiencing an alarm response when there is in fact nothing to be afraid of is known as panic. Many people are familiar with this type of fear and it is often (although not always) accompanied by a phobia.

Panic is an immediate physical response to unrealistic and irrational fears. This can have a huge affect on both your emotional and physical well-being – as well as your ability to reach your full potential.

What Causes Fear?

While it is important to be aware of potential and real threats, it is just as important to react appropriately to them. For most of us, our initial startle response subsides as soon as we realize that there is no actual threat or danger.

However, this is not always the case. There are many people for whom fear becomes maladaptive, as they struggle with anxiety, phobias and panic attacks. Children are also at risk of overactive fear, as they are not always able to rationalize fears that are unrealistic or unfounded. 

What is fear  like for children? 

Children experiencing fears and phobias feel very real threats and parents often have difficulty consoling or reassuring their child that there is actually nothing to fear. Childhood anxiety can have a negative impact on their healthy development and may predispose them to problems in later life.

Fear of :-
- Falling; downward motion Borax.

-        Of pointed things; knives and forks etc. Spigellia.

-        Of Dogs; animals Belladonna.

-        Being alone; thunder strom, ghosts etc. Phosphorus 200.

-        Appearance before audience; examination etc. Argentum Nit.

-        Fear of failure, stage fright (examinations etc) Gelsemium.

-        Aeroplanes flying over the head Aconite.

-        Child fears to go to bed alone Causticum.

-        Fear to be alone; feels better in open air even though patient is chilly Pulsatilla.

-        Fear of poverty Calcarea Flour.

-        Fear of accidents Carbo Veg., If Carbo Veg fails, Psorinum.

-        Fear of being touched Arnica.

-        Fear of Cholera Lachesis.

-        Fear of consumption; contagious disease, going to a dentist Calcarea Carb.

-        Fear of cutting face while saving Caladiums.

-        Fear of dark Stramonium.

-        Fear of death; impending illness, disgust for life Pneumococcin.

-        Intercurrent remedy Sulphur.

And here are the Homeopathic remedies used for Anxiety due to different reasons :-

 - Sudden with restlessness and fear of death Aconite.

-        Prolonged with periodic and panic attacks Arsenic Album.

-        With fainting spells; profuse sweating; worse in the morning Sulphur.

-        Makes patient walk fast; due to anticipation Argentum Nit.

-        Worse lying in bed and closing the eyes Carbo Veg.

-        Anxiety aggravated by upward or downward motion; going in an elevator; worse till 11 P.M. Borax.

-        Anxious about business even when seriously ill Bryonia Alba.

-        Full of apprehensions in the evening Causticum.

-        Anxiety and fears in the evening with restlessness and palpitation Calcarea carb.

-        Anxiety worse while lying still. Sad music ameliorates the complaints Manganum Acet.

-        Anxiety due to fright, fear, exciting news; stage fright; worse while appearing for examination or interview etc Gelsemium.

-        Anxiety due to grief or shock in the subconscious mind Ignatia.

-        Anxiety; better after eating Anacardium.

-        P.S :-
Rescue Remedy is another very good option.

TIPS TO OVERCOME FEAR !!

1.   Identify your fear. Exactly what are you afraid of?

2.  Analyze your fear. Is your fear rational? Will it hurt you? Fear is a good thing if it keeps you safe and prevents you from getting eaten by a wild animal or burned by a fire. Most fears, however, are of things that won’t harm us. Those are the fears we need to banish.

3.  Use gradual desensitization. Start small. Take baby steps to gradually melt the fear away. If your dream is to travel, start traveling in a “safe” way with someone to hold your hand until you’re ready to stand on your own.

4.  Consider what others are doing. If they can do it, why can’t you? What do “they” have that you don’t? Chances are: nothing.

5.  Change the way you think and you change the way you act. You can control your thoughts. Whenever you find yourself dwelling on the things you’re afraid of, change your thoughts to think positive thoughts about the good parts of your dream.

6.  Be on the offensive rather than defensive. The vast majority of those things you fear will never happen. What you imagine is nearly always worse than the truth. Just start walking and face the fear.

7.  Go public about your fear. Somehow there is power in letting it out. Tell everyone how scared you are and, chances are, the fear will dissipate.

GOD BLESS !!

Getting Over Lost Love (HEART BREAK) !!

HEART BREAK !!


“Breaking up is hard to do,” just as the song title says. An emotional
wound like this happens to most of d people at some point in our lives. With
the break up comes a sense of rejection, insecurity, fear, and hopelessness
that can be overwhelming.

things u can do is......
- wishing that things were different than the way they are.
- Remember that in time you will heal. You can learn to take good care of yourself and make the emotional hurt serve your growth.
- Talk to a friend or a Counselor, someone who can give you
perspective and understanding.
- Allow yourself time to heal. Avoid rebounding into another relationship.
- Invest time and energy in yourself. Learn something new.
- Do something you have always wanted to do so that you expand your horizons.
- Remember that the initial raw pain will subside. A wounded heart requires time to heal just as does a broken leg.
- Avoid drugs and alcohol, they only delay the pain.
- Read something Inspirational

Capture the beauty of time shared together, and note the valuable life lessons learned. Be thankful for having experienced love, and know that you are a better person because of it.

No challenge is ever presented to us, if we are un-able to handle it.

For those currently in relationships, cherish and honor your partner for who they are as form and formless Beings. Accept the reality that life is full of change, and dance with the changes and challenges as they come. And when they come, view each one as an opportunity for personal growth – when you do that, nothing is lost.

All is well, and so be it.

** What are your experiences with dealing with breakups? Any words of wisdom for others going through it? Share your thoughts and stories with us in the comment section. See you there!

TEST ANXIETY !!

What Is Test Anxiety?

Test anxiety is actually a type of performance anxiety — a feeling someone might have in a situation where performance really counts or when the pressure's on to do well. For example, a person might experience performance anxiety when he or she is about to try out for the school play, sing a solo on stage, get into position at the pitcher's mound, step onto the platform in a diving meet, or go into an important interview.

Like other situations in which a person might feel performance anxiety, test anxiety can bring on "butterflies," a stomachache, or a tension headache. Some people might feel shaky, sweaty, or feel their heart beating quickly as they wait for the test to be given out. A student with really strong test anxiety may even feel like he or she might pass out or throw up.

Test anxiety is not the same as doing poorly on a certain test because your mind is on something else. Most people know that having other things on their minds — such as a breakup or the death of someone close — can also interfere with their concentration and prevent them from doing their best on a test.

What Causes It?

All anxiety is a reaction to anticipating something stressful. Like other anxiety reactions, test anxiety affects the body and the mind. When you're under stress, your body releases the hormone adrenaline, which prepares it for danger (you may hear this referred to as the "fight or flight" reaction). That's what causes the physical symptoms, such as sweating, a pounding heart, and rapid breathing. These sensations might be mild or intense.

Focusing on the bad things that could happen also fuels test anxiety. For example, someone worrying about doing poorly might think thoughts like, "What if I forget everything I know?" or "What if the test is too hard?" Too many thoughts like these leave no mental space for thinking about the test questions. People with test anxiety can also feel stressed out by their physical reaction and think things like "What if I throw up?" or "Oh no, my hands are shaking."

Just like other types of anxiety, test anxiety can create a vicious circle: The more a person focuses on the bad things that could happen, the stronger the feeling of anxiety becomes. This makes the person feel worse and, because his or her head is full of distracting thoughts and fears, it can increase the possibility that the person will do worse on the test.

Who's Likely to Have Test Anxiety?

People who worry a lot or who are perfectionists are more likely to have trouble with test anxiety. People with these traits sometimes find it hard to accept mistakes they might make or to get anything less than a perfect score. In this way, even without meaning to, they might really pressure themselves. Test anxiety is bound to thrive in a situation like this.

Students who aren't prepared for tests but who care about doing well are also likely to experience test anxiety. If you know you're not prepared, it's a no-brainer to realize that you'll be worried about doing poorly. People can feel unprepared for tests for several reasons: They may not have studied enough, they may find the material difficult, or perhaps they feel tired because didn't get enough sleep the night before.

What Can You Do?

Test anxiety can be a real problem when someone is so stressed out over a test that he or she can't get past the nervousness to focus on the test questions and do his or her best work. Feeling ready to meet the challenge, though, can keep test anxiety at a manageable level.

Homoeopathy can help!!!!!!!!

Homeopathy is based on the philosophy that the body, mind and emotions are not really separate and distinct, but are actually fully integrated. Based on this perspective, a homeopath seeks a remedy that fits all of a patient’s physical and psychological symptoms. Although some people’s symptoms may be complex, a well-trained homeopath will know which symptoms should be specially noted, and can choose an effective, individualized remedy.

Prolonged emotional stress can cause physical problems, like upset stomach, difficulty in digesting foods, poor nutrient assimilation, weaker immune system, sleeplessness, etc. The opposite is also true. Illness and physical problems can result in anxiety or emotional uneasiness. Therefore, it is important for a homeopath to conduct an in-depth interview of a patient to ensure a proper, all encompassing remedy.

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POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER

PTSD

If you went through a traumatic experience and are having trouble getting back to your regular life and reconnecting to others, you may be suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). When you have PTSD, it can seem like you’ll never get over what happened or feel normal again. But help is available – and you are not alone. If you are willing to seek treatment, stick with it, and reach out to others for support, you will be able to overcome the symptoms of PTSD and move on with your life.

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a disorder that can develop following a traumatic event that threatens your safety or makes you feel helpless. Most people associate PTSD with battle-scarred soldiers – and military combat is the most common cause in men – but any overwhelming life experience can trigger PTSD, especially if the event is perceived as unpredictable and uncontrollable.

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can affect those who personally experience the catastrophe, those who witness it, and those who pick up the pieces afterwards, including emergency workers and law enforcement officers. It can even occur in the friends or family members of those who went through the actual trauma.

Traumatic events that can lead to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) include:

War Rape Natural disasters A car or plane crash

Kidnapping Violent assault Sexual or physical abuse Medical procedures (especially in kids)

SYMPTOMS

Following a traumatic event, almost everyone experiences at least some of the symptoms of PTSD. It’s very common to have bad dreams, feel fearful or numb, and find it difficult to stop thinking about what happened. But for most people, these symptoms are short-lived. They may last for several days or even weeks, but they gradually lift.

If you have post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), however, the symptoms don’t decrease. You don’t feel a little better each day. In fact, you may start to feel worse. But PTSD doesn’t always develop in the hours or days following a traumatic event, although this is most common. For some people, the symptoms of PTSD take weeks, months, or even years to develop.

The symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can arise suddenly, gradually, or come and go over time. Sometimes symptoms appear seemingly out of the blue. At other times, they are triggered by something that reminds you of the original traumatic event, such as a noise, an image, certain words, or a smell. While everyone experiences PTSD differently, there are three main types of symptoms, as listed below.

Re-experiencing the traumatic event

• Intrusive, upsetting memories of the event
• Flashbacks (acting or feeling like the event is happening again)
• Nightmares (either of the event or of other frightening things)
• Feelings of intense distress when reminded of the trauma
• Intense physical reactions to reminders of the event (e.g. pounding heart, rapid breathing, nausea, muscle tension, sweating)

PTSD symptoms of avoidance and emotional numbing

• Avoiding activities, places, thoughts, or feelings that remind you of the trauma
• Inability to remember important aspects of the trauma
• Loss of interest in activities and life in general
• Feeling detached from others and emotionally numb
• Sense of a limited future (you don’t expect to live a normal life span, get married, have a career)

PTSD symptoms of increased arousal

• Difficulty falling or staying asleep
• Irritability or outbursts of anger
• Difficulty concentrating
• Hypervigilance (on constant “red alert”)
• Feeling jumpy and easily startled

Other common symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder

• Anger and irritability
• Guilt, shame, or self-blame
• Substance abuse
• Depression and hopelessness
• Suicidal thoughts and feelings
• Feeling alienated and alone
• Feelings of mistrust and betrayal
• Headaches, stomach problems, chest pain

GETTING HELP FROM HOMOEOPATHY

Homoeopathy treats the person as a whole. It means that homeopathic treatment focuses on the patient as a person, as well as his pathological condition. The homeopathic medicines are selected after a full individualizing examination and case-analysis, which includes the medical history of the patient, physical and mental constitution etc.

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Treatment Of Anorexia Nervosa At BGR MIND CLINIC!!

“ANOREXIA NERVOSA AND ITS HOMOEOPATHIC TREATMENT”

Anorexia nervosa, commonly referred to simply as anorexia, is one type of eating disorder. More importantly, it is also a psychological disorder. Anorexia is a condition that goes beyond out-of-control dieting. A person with anorexia initially begins dieting to lose weight. Over time, the weight loss becomes a sign of mastery and control. The drive to become thinner is actually secondary to concerns about control and/or fears relating to one's body. The individual continues the endless cycle of restrictive eating, often accompanied by other behaviors such as excessive exercising or the overuse of diuretics, laxatives, and/or enemas in order to reduce body weight, often to a point close to starvation in order to feel a sense of control over the body. This cycle becomes an obsession and, in this way, is similar to any type of addiction.

Who is at risk for anorexia?

Approximately 95% of those affected by anorexia are female, but males can develop the disorder as well.

What causes anorexia?

At this time, no definite cause of anorexia nervosa has been determined. However, research within the medical and psychological fields continues to explore possible causes.

Some experts feel that demands from society and families could possibly be underlying causes for anorexia. For many individuals with anorexia, the destructive cycle begins with the pressure to be thin and attractive. A poor self-image compounds the problem.

Other researchers feel that this disorder can stem from a particular dysfunction often seen in families of anorexia patients. In one particular type of dysfunction, family members become so interdependent that each cannot achieve their identity as an individual. Thus, family members are unable to function as healthy individuals and are dependent on other family members for their identity. In children, part of this dysfunction includes a fear of growing up (especially girls). Restrictive dieting may prevent their bodies from developing in a normal manner

And, in their thinking, restricts the maturational process and maintains the parent-child relationship that the family has come to rely on. Other family situations that have been suggested, but not proved, as possibly being related to the development of anorexia nervosa include high parental expectations, poor communications skills, and problems with conflict management.

Some studies also suggest that a genetic (inherited) component may play a role in determining a person's susceptibility to anorexia. Researchers are currently attempting to identify the particular gene or genes that might affect a person's tendency to develop this disorder.

Although no organic cause for anorexia has been identified, some evidence points to a dysfunction in the part of the brain (hypothalamus) which regulates certain metabolic processes. Other studies have suggested that imbalances in neurotransmitter (brain messenger chemicals involved in signaling processes levels in the brain may occur in people suffering from anorexia.

Symptoms of anorexia

There are many symptoms for anorexia, some individuals may not experience all of they symptoms. The symptoms include: Body weight that is inconsistent with age, build and height (usually 15% below normal weight).

Some other symptoms of anorexia are:

1.Loss of at least 3 consecutive menstrual periods (in women).

2.Not wanting or refusing to eat in public

3.Anxiety

4.Weakness

5.Brittle skin

6.Shortness of breath

7.Obsessiveness about calorie intake

Homeopathic medicines are known to have deep effect on human economy and have been found effective in various psychological and devlopmental disorders. The focus of homeopathy is not to treat the isolated symptoms of Anorexia but to treat the person as a whole. Not only the symptoms of Anorexia but also the general physical and mental constitution of the patient, past medical history, medical history of parents, information about pregnancy and vaccination - all are used to find the probable cause in a given case and based on the final analysis a remedy is chosen for a patient.

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Mental Health At BGR MIND CLINIC!!

HOMOEOPATHY IN MENTAL DISORDERS!!

The Challenge of Psychiatric Conditions

Psychological disorders pose one of the biggest health challenges today. According to one study, one out of five suffers from psychological disorders.

The trend is rising. The common causes, apart from biological causes, are setbacks in life, grief, poor coping skills, faulty upbringing, high pace & high demands of modern life, complex social structure, rapidly changing human values, lack of role models, poor support system, influence of media etc.

Our society is changing fast and the demands are challenging. These demands call for in-depth acceptance and constant adjustments.

Everything happening at personal, social, professional or day-to-day life has profound psychological impact. Job stress and poor interpersonal skills at both social and family level are beginning to show its effect. Modes of communication are rising but true communication is lacking.

More and more people feel misunderstood, alone and unwanted. Emotions are unsatisfied and mind management skills are lacking.

Result is obvious. This affects people’s ability to think, feel, act and relate in effective manner. They affect the happiness and progress in life.

Psychological complaints are rising alarmingly. And to add there are many organic and functional disorders. The world needs a healing system, which has safe and effective treatment for such complaints. The answer lies in homeopathy. It is the most safe and effective treatment method of psychological, psycho somatic and psychosexual complaints.

The Advantage of Homoeopathic Psychiatry

• It is effective in treating psychiatric diseases and gives peace of mind.
• It improves alertness & functioning of mind. It does not make mind dull.
• It is safe for all ages and conditions. It has no side effects.
• It does not create dependence.
• It is proactive and prevents sickness from developing.
• It has unmatched reputation in treating psychosomatic conditions helping at both physical and mental level simultaneously.
• It is suitable for both acute and chronic phases of sickness.
• It values the significance of person’s thoughts, feelings, behavior as well as life incidents & circumstances.
• It very well deals with emotional traumas and pent up emotions.
• It can deal with chemical imbalance in brain and brings that back to balance

Homeopathy has given high emphasis on psychology and personality of the person to be treated of any physical disease or psychological complaint.

It takes mind and body as a complete whole. Its treatment of psychological complaints is positive i.e. it not only relieves complaints but also makes the person more functional to become more adaptable and better equipped to handle stress of life.

Homeopathy understands and values minute feelings and also physical impact of emotions. It does not ridicule strange looking feelings and sensations but takes them as important messages of inner health. It ‘cures’ the root cause of psychological complaint be it impact of grief, disappointment or discord in personal life. It can even resolve pent up emotions & bad memories. It is said to restores the chemical imbalance in brain.

Patient Specific Homeopathic Psychiatry

Patient Specific Homeopathic Psychiatry is the advanced homeopathy using the techniques of Psychotherapy.

It is a unique method of treating psychiatric disorders and psycho emotional complaints.

1. Its advantages over commonly used homeopathy are:
2. It is quick & deep in action and is more effective in treating psychiatric disorders.
3. It uncovers & treats conflicts and disorders of deep subconscious mind.
4. It even heals emotional trauma of remote past.
5. It restores chemical balance in brain.
6. There is no aggravation, no side effect, and no suppression of sickness.
7. It improves mental strength & functions including thoughts, feelings, behavior, memory, concentration etc.

Homeopathic Psychiatry at BGR MIND CLINIC!!

At Mind Clinic, cases of stress, anxiety, depression, schizophrenia, sleeplessness, mania, phobia, OCD, autism, psycho sexual complaints, psycho somatic complaints like migraine, irritable bowel syndrome etc have been effectively treated and managed using Advanced Patient Specific Homeopathic Psychiatry.

It is equally suitable for acute episodes as well as long-term maintenance. It can be used along with conventional treatment to reduce its side effects and to enhance well-being. The great thing about homeopathy is that it not only relieves psychological disorders but also enhances positive mental health resolving subconscious psychological conflicts. It does not make the patient dull but enhance mental alertness & activity level. It is the effective answer to psychiatric diseases and psycho emotional complaints.

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